Kazzy and Decchan

1) Stop and think about what you're doing. Perhaps you've fallen in love with the mysterious, sexy ways of your anime husbando. Maybe you came across a picture of a super-kawaii Japanese guy on the internet and got sucked into a vortex from which you neither know how to nor want to escape. Perhaps you love J-Pop. Perhaps you love K-Pop and any guy resembling an East Asian is "close enough" — Stop. If you are specifically targeting Japanese or East Asian guys, you might be approaching or have already crossed the line of objectifying people. I'm not saying it's inherently wrong to want to date a person of a specific ethnicity, but I implore you to think of why that's what you want. Appearance? Personality? You can find traits, appearance or personality, that are attractive to you in a person from anywhere. There are at least hundreds of millions of men available on this space rock. If you meet a guy who is your type, and your only reason for not da...

I was fortunate enough to be included in a Find Your Love In Japan video! For those of you who haven't heard of this channel, it is run by a Japanese guy named Nobita who answers questions people have about dating Japanese people, as well as Japanese culture as it pertains to people and dating. He is very motivational, and he has greatly inspired me over the past couple of years. I lost like, thirty minutes of some sleep after we did the interview. Would people think I'm a weeaboo for going by Decchan? Would people call me ugly and question what guy would really date me for anything other than a green card? (Ouch.) Would there be a negative reaction overall? Did I say something insensitive that everyone disagrees with? However, I know it comes with the territory. There will always be people there to call black women terrible names. There will always be people who call people out at the slightest hint of their being "too" into Japanese culture. Most people w...